It seems to me that every
year most people who celebrate Christmas or Hanukkah look for that ultimate
gift. Around the mid 90's, I received my perfect gift.
At that time I was a Sunday School teacher and for some reason I also
volunteered to be a co-director of the children's religious education
department at a Unitarian church.
Every year the church merged many December holidays of different
religions and celebrated them close to Christmas Day. This year was no
different. We were having a holiday program which included the children I
taught. They were going to sing "Jingle Bells" and "I Had a Little Dreidel."
We practiced this program for a few weeks.
The night before the holiday program, I parked my car in a perfect and
safe parking spot. It was right across the street from my home. In New York
City, that particular spot was considered close. I considered it safe because
it was close. I felt lucky that I got that perfect space.
The next morning was Sunday. It was the day of the holiday program. The
crisp morning air stung my face, so I moved quickly across the street. I
unlocked the car's blue door and sat down into the chilly seat. It's not very
pleasant sitting in a cold car. It seems like it took forever for the heat to
kick in. I placed the key into the ignition. As I turned the key, I realized
something was definitely wrong. The key was too easy to turn. I didn't feel
that resistance and then that connection. Those familiar green, white and
blue lights did not appear on my dashboard. My eyes glared at the dashboard
and my mouth dropped open.
All of a sudden I felt the adrenaline filling my
stomach like lead. Oh no, this can't be happening.........not
now.............not today! I turned the key back to the original position. I
sank my head on my folded arms on the steering wheel. Then I sank my head
backward into the headrest. I repeated the words again, No, no, this can't be
happening. What's wrong with this car! While I sat back I stared through the
front glass of the car. I wasn't really staring at anything. I was just
thinking of my next strategy. All of a sudden my thinking became irrational.
No, no this is all a dream. Sure it's happened before. I've had a terrible
dream and then I woke up. Then everything was fine. OK, I'm going to close my
eyes. When I open my eyes, I will turn the key. This time, I will hear that
familiar engine and all those lights on the dashboard are going to light up.
I closed my eyes for a few seconds and then opened them. I thought more
optimistically now. I let out a sigh. I turned the key. I knew as soon as I
turned the key that I wasn't dreaming. The car engine did not turnover. I
sank my head back into the headrest again.
Think......think ...........What
should I do? I can't sit in this car forever. I'm losing precious time and I
have to do something. I have to get to the church. Those children will be
waiting for me, I have to make a decision....................I'm going to
look under the hood.......Yeah, I'll look under the hood...... Sure I know
where the engine, the battery and the fan belt are located. I know what
opening the oil and the antifreeze go into. I know all about cars.
Well, atthis point I knew I wasn't thinking clearly because I wouldn't have made
those bizarre comments to myself. I'm going to do something men do, I'm going
to look under the hood and give a diagnosis of what's wrong with the car.
Maybe the car just needs a jump-start, I thought.
I opened the car's door and then I walked around to the front. I opened the bulky blue hood with my gloved hands. It felt like a heavy
block of cold ice. I felt like I was opening the "Door of the Unknown." I
held my hands on the edge of the car and I lowered my head closer to the
"internal organs" of my car. There was a Big......Black.....Hole.......inside
my car......"My battery is gone! " All I saw were two metal prongs hanging
loose. Those two prongs should be on my battery! My "mechanical legs" (car)
are not going to work! I really wanted to cry..........At that moment, I
really didn't care if someone just threw my head into that hole and slammed
the hood shut. It would be much easier than facing the consequences of the
day.
After I finished crying inside, I felt anger creeping into my blood. I
slammed the heavy hood. The hood must have made a loud sound that must have
woken up some of the late Sunday risers. My common sense must have escaped
me. Again, I was thinking irrationally. I wanted to find that person that
stole my battery. Didn't that person realize what he has done to me? I was
trying to imagine him stealing the battery. I would also imagine that I would
catch him in the act and teach him a lesson he'll never forget. All sorts of
unimaginable acts of torture raced through my mind. Give him the death
penalty....... No, that would be too kind, I thought. As I marched toward my
home, I was thinking, "I had to live in NY. I had to park my car in that
perfect parking spot across the street!"
When I finally went inside I made a phone call to the other co-director.
I explained to her what had happened. She offered her sympathetic ear. I told
her I didn't think there was enough time for me to get to the church. She
reluctantly offered to lead the children through the songs. At the end of the
short conversation I changed my mind. I told her I was going to be there even
if I got there late.
I gathered my bags and started the long 30 to 40 minute walk to the
church. It seemed longer because I hadn't walked much lately because I had a
car. I had to leave my "mechanical legs" behind. My real legs felt rusty.
Immediately as I started walking, I felt my anger melting away from my body.
The frigid air blew against my warm face. As I walked, I realized that I
missed a lot of my natural environment because I drove a car. All of a
sudden, I felt I was in closer contact with all the diverse faces passing me
by. There were no boundaries separating us. I started noticing the brown
leaves and the abandoned birds nests on the bare trees.
I also noticed the pigeons. These birds were always invading our
territory. They are considered in New York as "the rats with wings." But
ironically they are birds just like any other bird in New York. But it's
strange that Man feels he can put this bird in a certain class. He puts the pigeon
at the bottom of the bird's hierarchy, but actually the pigeon is no better
or worst than any other bird. This labeling doesn't stop with birds. Man also
feels he has the right to categorize human beings on the similar type of
ladder. It's unfortunate that any living thing should be on that ladder of
life.
As I looked closely at the birds, I noticed one pigeon with no feet. The
bird was actually balancing his gray massive body on two thin pink stilts.
The bird had no feet but still managed to survive and attain his goals.
That's amazing, I thought. Suddenly my real legs carried me faster to my
destination.
I finally got to the white Tudor church. It was filled to capacity.
Of course it was filled, it was the Sunday before Christmas. I saw many
concerned faces. A few quietly offered their support. They also wanted to
know some of the details of my unfortunate morning adventure. I received all
the sympathy I needed. The other co-director I worked with was relieved to
see me. I saved her from her temporary duties.
The children were finally ready to perform. They were as diverse as our
neighborhood. The program was not perfect. I didn't expect it to be. One good
thing about a children's concert is that the audience loves them no matter
how bad they perform. It is because they look so adorable. I was glad that I
decided to go to church. The best part of the day was when I got a ride home.
The next day I decided to get a new battery so my "mechanical legs" would
work again. I went across the street to get something out from the car. It
was still parked in the same "perfect" parking place. I walked back to the
other side of the street and saw a man of Middle Eastern descent facing me.
He was an Afghan. At that time the Afghans were the new
immigrants settling in my area. One of my religious friends described the
strange habits and culture of these new immigrants. She tried not to appear
too prejudiced. After all, she considered herself religious.
The Middle Eastern man on the other side of the street was trying to get
my attention. He was small man. He had black hair and a black mustache. I
could tell he was Afghani. "Lady, lady....Is that your blue car across
the street?" This individual looked like his body was controlled by strings
like a marionette puppet. His movements were erratic. His arms spun around
his head. His words were spilling out of his mouth a hundred miles a minute.
"Yes, it is," I said. He continued "I'm so glad that I see you. You're
missing your battery, right?" I must have looked perplexed at this point.
"Yeah" I responded. "I saw who took it," he said. At his point there was no
time to react." Then he continued his astonishing story, "I was walking to
the temple. It was dark then. I saw two men park their car next to your car.
I saw them opening the hood of your car. They were stealing your battery. My
friend and I went over to them and told them to get away from the car and
leave the battery. The two men were so scared they left the battery on the
ground and drove away." What I was hearing was so unbelievable. Although I
was so grateful for his heroic deed. I told him he shouldn't have risked his
life for just a battery. The battery could be replaced but nothing was more
precious than his life.
"I have your battery in my brother's apartment. Wait here, I'll get it
for you." He scrambled up the elevator and disappeared. I leaned against the
short wall of bricks. I was really in a state of shock. I was trying to
absorb all the details of his story. His act of bravery was something I read
only in fairy tales. These kind of things didn't happen in NY.
Suddenly, a black cloud seeped into my head. My sinister New York mind
started to set in. An unfortunate thing about living in New York is that you
become very distrustful towards people. You are always ready to put your
defense mechanisms up so you don't encounter a con artist. "Maybe he took
my battery. Maybe he was ready to con me out of my Five mansions, my 6 BMW's
and all my millions." Suddenly all those evil thoughts escaped my mind. The
man scurried back.
In his hands was my Ugly, Dirty, Battery! My battery was back! My
mechanical legs are going to work again. I was thrilled. I felt like dancing
around him. I thanked him a million times. I offered to give him a reward. He
scuttled away and said "No, Lady, you don't need to do that. I don't want
any."
As he moved quickly away from me, I began to wonder why he made the
choices that he made. Did he realize how much danger he could have
experienced? Did his Muslim faith affect his decisions? Why did he cross his
safe boundaries to the boundaries of danger? He did this all for a stranger,
someone he would probably never see again. I knew my questions would never be
answered.
It is common in our society to view the interracial family as
dysfunctional but I know I have learned from that family to respect people
despite their ethnicities. I could have accepted all the prejudices around
me about these new immigrants but because of my upbringing from my
interracial family I learned not to prejudge any individual.
Most people expect someone close to you to show love and but it is very
special when a stranger showers you with a gift of human compassion.
As I unwrapped my gifts that year I didn't think too much about what was
inside those gifts. That year I received my ultimate gift. It was probably
the best gift I would ever receive in my whole lifetime. It wasn't under any
wrappers and it wasn't my dirty, old battery. It was a combined gift of human
compassion and kindness. Today this experience still warms my heart.
Although I will probably never see this brave individual again, there are two
words I'd like to say to him And those two words are Thank You.
Peace to All
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